How a drinking, brawling atheist became a deliverance, healing evangelist in one day

When he left, it felt like a piece of our planet was broken off, and floated away into space.
Alas, his ship arrived earlier than we expected, and we couldn’t stop it.  Nor were our ropes strong enough to pull it back through the winds of eternity. Reflecting on the joy embracing him as he reached the other shore brings peace. But the mystery ocean that lies between is a burden we have to carry on with.
His face was never on Charisma magazine, and you can’t even find him if you Google him. He was an undercover hero you don’t hear about on the news. And he was a healing evangelist, a pastor of many churches he personally planted, and he liked teasing me by feeding me with bizarre Ukrainian food he knew I didn’t like. He was my father in-law.

5 Types of fathers you need in your life

No matter how smart or anointed you are

Having a dad is a big deal. This has been proven by many studies. For example 85% of all youths in prison come from fatherless homes. 90% of all homeless and runaway children are from fatherless homes. I have spent 7 years as a youth pastor, and four years before that mentoring teenage boys, many of which were fatherless. I have seen firsthand how many challenges can be traced back to not having a father or a father figure in someone’s life.
The truth is, whether you had a dad or not, you still need what Michael Brodeur calls a constellation of fathers.

Homegrown Breakthrough Declarations – A supplement that helped me get unstuck

Recently I was feeling a bit depressed about some of my weaknesses. I was in a situation where I knew I had to confront someone, and I knew it was not going to be easy.  I don’t think I know any freaks of nature who are naturally good at confrontation, however in my case it happens to be the opposite of one my strengths.  “Harmony” according to the Strengths Finder assessment.   You may remember a post I wrote called “A simple hack for effectively stewarding prophetic words”.  It was about creating a declaration list that I call my Identity Declaration.  It was a real game-changer for me. This, much like the Identity Declaration list is something that was born out of a personal encounter, and I believe it will really help.  Especially if all you seem to see in front of you is the ugly head of your most regretted deficiency.

The device with no screen that replaced my laptop

I like to write. Whether what I write is published in any form makes no difference. It’s just good for me to write.
Thoughts untangle themselves running over lips and pencil tips.
The problem is, I can write so much more and faster when I type.  Pencil tips just don’t do the trick for me, but this little device turned out to be the perfect solution for me.
Here are 6 reasons I like it and some applications I use it for.
By no means is it comprehensive, but call it a review if you like.

In 2013 I was invited to be part of a hand-selected team of Holy Spirit agents who would go on a pioneering missions trip to Cambodia and Malaysia. I was planning on bringing my laptop with me so I could write letters, journal, and do all the other things you do with a laptop. My laptop decided it wasn’t up for the trip and died a week before it was time to leave. I didn’t have time, nor the money to get it fixed in time.
Being a proud owner of an iPhone 4 at the time, all I was lacking was a way of typing other than pecking the screen with my fat thumbs.
When your fingers are capable of typing a smidge over 60 words per minute when equipped with a real keyboard, using only 20% of your fingers for typing is like making a hungry man eat soup with a toothpick. Frustrating.

Here is a list of the applications I’ve used this nifty device for.
Been using it for one year and five months now, and haven’t had any problems with it at all.

Microsoft Wedge.
A Bluetooth wireless mobile keyboard that works with phones, tablets.  Will probably work with any device with a screen that supports Bluetooth. Not sure what they go for now, but I got mine for $39.95 on Ebay.

  • Saved the day for my mission trip.  This little keyboard literally replaced my broken laptop. I was able to complete all the tasks I would have done on my laptop thanks to this keyboard + my phone.

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  • Note taking. Thanks to the Wedge I was able to jot down many incredible one liners and notes during my transformational three years at Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry. I use the cover as a platform for my phone, and the keyboard lays across my knees. Not perfect, but it works.

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  • A bible stand. This is a recent discovery. The cover that comes with the keyboard is not only a cover.   It bends in half to any angle you like and works as an excellent stand for an iPad or such. Turns out it works great for my bible.  Or a book.

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  • It shuts off and comes on by itself, when I close or open the cover.  This is nice.  I don’t have ot worry about turning it off or on.  Just open the lid, and it’s on.  Close it, and it’s off.  

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  • The batteries last like forever.  Probably close to three months with my use.

 

  • Writing down ideas, notes, revelations in during trips, or in the Airport, or just about anywhere.  I’ve used it for everything from shooting off an email to writing down prophetic words for churches during a long drive.  I can pull out my keyboard, turn on Evernote on my phone a lot faster than digging my computer out of my back pack and hoping it’s charged.

evernote essentials

Lastly, if you’re already using Evernote, or are looking into start using it, I highly recommend reading a book on Evernote called Evernote Essentials by Brett Kelly.  Brett used to work for Evernote, and he truly did an amazing job explaining all the magic in Evernote.  It’s genuinely a fun read for a techy book.  Being one of the geeks who helped make Evernote, he’s probably been using it longer than anyone else on the planet.

Click on the picture or HERE to check it out.

 

The one thing that will make your kids listen to you long after they don’t have to

From the moment our children are born, we have undeniable positional authority over them. We’re bigger than them. We’re stronger than them. We’re smarter than them. And most importantly, our children are entirely dependent on us physically and emotionally. The problem is that this positional authority that we so enjoy, diminishes proportionally as our children grow up. If positional authority is all you’ve got, then eventually you’ll end up filing for influence-level bankruptcy at some point down the road.

What to do when you feel like a ghost with your kids

Recently I found myself just standing there. I was watching my kids play with each other.  And I felt like a ghost. I could see them and hear them, but I couldn’t connect. I wasn’t on their radar. It’s a paradox that bewilders me. My kids are by far the most precious thing I have in this world. And yet in the rigor and chaos of life, they often end up with the scraps left over.

The scientifically proven way to hear God’s voice

I was 15 years old.  My heart was on fire and my brain was almost boiling.  As the pressure increased, tears started to run down my cheeks. It was a stuffy summer night and I was pacing the dusty streets of Kharkov, Ukraine.  I was frustrated with people.  Not just any people.  It was the people who would say “God told me this…” and “God told me that…”
“Do they really hear God?” I thought. Or are people just audaciously faking it?

I was desperate to hear God’s voice.  I wanted it more than anything else in the world!

Have you ever had thoughts like that?

The 1 app that saved me from a disorganized life of clutter

Mountains of papers, emails, letters, notes, reports, drawings my kids made for me, receipts and lots and lots of other logistical crud. How to store it all and keep it organized? There’s one app that can do it all. Just about. I use it on my smart phone and laptop every day.  And of course I use it on my iPad I don’t have.

Here is a general overview of some cool features and what I use this app for so far. “So far” because the more I learn about this app, the more I realize how much more I can do with it.
O.k. enough suspense.
Drum roll….

Evernote.

Yep, that’s it. That’s the app.

This app is slowly but surely taking the place of  a lot of traditional tools I use.

I use it for journaling, notes, ideas, brainstorming, shopping lists with check boxes, saving my kids pictures and lots of other stuff.

A friend of mine even writes his books using Evernote as he commutes to work.  He just lays his notes out on the passenger seat, and starts orally recording through his iPhone as Evernote transcribes what he’s saying.

 

Here are some features I like about it, and some of the secret sauce you may have not heard about.

 

1. It’s free and it works on Mac/PC and iOS/Android.

There is a paid version that allows more data to be synced per month and some other perks, but so far I have been happily using the free version, and have not yet needed to upgrade.

If you have a Mac or iPhone, then just head to the App store.  If you use an Android phone or Windows, then you can easily download the app from Google Play or download the program for windows on the Evernote site.

 

2. Tags. Forget about folders.

On my computer I’m sort of a folder freak. I put everything in folders and sub folders. I have to say however, Tags just really trump folders in a lot of ways.  Anytime you create a note, you can tag it.  And you can create any tags you want like “shopping lists” or “meeting notes” that you can use to tag relevant notes with.  These tags help sort notes according to tags.  So if I have thousands of notes but I want to only see shopping lists, I can click on the “shopping lists” tag and only notes tagged with that tag will show up.  The thing I like about tags for organizing notes compared to folders is that a note can have multiple tags whereas a file cannot exist in two different folders simultaneously. For example I have a tag called “Internship”.  But what if I have a note that really would be good to sort as an “Internship” note, but also as a “meeting notes” note also?  Well, if I was using papers in folders I would have to choose one or the other folder to store the file. With tags, I could just add both the “internship” tag and the “meeting notes” tag to the same note.  This way that same note will show up under either of those tags.

3.  Go paperless.

Many people are using Evernote to go completely paperless. When they go through their mail, they simply scan the important stuff and put in Evernote with relevant tags. No more keeping thousands of bills and letters. Their new home is the trash basket while the documents are well organized and stored in Evernote where they can be accessed from virtually any device anywhere.

4.  Never underestimate the power of a… NOTE.

When you think of a “note” you probably think of a little piece of paper with a list of what to buy at the grocery store. Or a simple file with primal unformatted text. In Evernote however a note can contain just about anything. Literally. You can store absolutely any type of file within a note.  That could be a website, a video, a picture, a document, a spreadsheet, an audio recording etc. So basically you can use “notes” in Evernote as containers to organize just about anything you have on your devices. (There is a size limit however)

5.  A Search Engine with X-ray vision.

The search engine of Evernote works so well, you could probably get by without even using tags. X-ray vision? Well not really, but the feature I’m about to tell you about is just about as impressive as x-ray vision. The evernote search engine can search text within images. For example you visit a cafe called “Cafe Barista Italia” and you take a picture of the sign outside and save it in Evernote in case you forget the name.   Even if you didn’t add any text, if you do a search for “cafe” Evernote will find that image, because Evernote like us humans can read text in images.

That’s just a few features that I like.

And, once again, if you really want to get the most out of this phenomenal app, make sure you read Evernote Essentials by Brett Kelly.  It’s really worth it.  I’ve almost finished reading it and I am very impressed.

So, are you a paper person or a digital person?  In any case you may want to give Evernote a try.   :)

Feel free to comment below.

 

 

A simple hack for effectively stewarding prophetic words

It will make you feel RICH

So, you have promises and prophetic words from God for you life?   Good.  The prickly truth however is this.  Just because you have prophecies and promises stored away in your little treasure box, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re getting all the juice.Here I share one little practical approach that was a real game changer for me personally.

Honey, I told the kids about sex

Wouldn’t we all be more set up for success in managing our sexual purity if we started off with a healthy, foundational view of sexual purity before we get slammed with all the slime that the world throws at us?
I had some interesting conversations about sex with my children who are now 10, 8, 5, and 3. I think one of my biggest fears was always that it could be dangerous for my kids to know too much about sex too early. What if they decide to try it? Yikes! I’m sure you’ve had thoughts like that if you’re a parent.

Trust can be a scary thing. Raising kids is like teaching someone to drive. It can be a little nerve racking when you let someone get behind the wheel for the first time.
My children know perfectly well what a kitchen knife is. And matches. They even know where we keep the keys to the car. Our five year-old boy even knows how to start the car.
Practically speaking, our kids have access to all of these danger-packed objects in our house.
But we trust them. Letting them know what a knife is, explaining its purpose and setting some guidelines is probably a better plan than hiding it, and making sure they don’t know of its existence.

1. Lay a strong foundation.

Imagine growing up in an environment where most of the money you ever encountered was counterfeit. That could be disillusioning and confusing when you finally came across the real thing. Which one is the real thing? Who determines that? In teaching a cashier to spot counterfeit cash, the key is not studying counterfeit money. It’s knowing the nuances and characteristics of a genuine dollar bill so well, that spotting the counterfeit is easy. Now to my point. Most of us never heard much about sex from our parents in a pure, safe environment.
My hope is that if my kids have a healthy, accurate view of sexuality before they start getting hit with the counterfeit, they will have a solid lighthouse in their hearts and minds. That lighthouse will guide them away from the dark rocks of destruction.
Psychologists will say that what parents teach their children typically trumps what children hear in other settings. That’s good news. As long as we’re intentional and strategic about what we teach our kids.

2. Take advantage of teachable moments.

After listening to some funny and awkward stories from some smart people and reading some great books, I’ve learned a few things. A few books that come to mind that I’ve learned quite a bit from would be Moral Revolution: The Naked Truth About Sexual Purity, Loving Our Kids On Purpose: Making A Heart-To-Heart Connection, and a book by Rob Bell called Sex God: Exploring the Endless Connections Between Sexuality and Spirituality. One of the conclusions I have made is that simply having “the talk” is not a good plan. Things are learned best when questions naturally arise. This is so much more effective than trying to answer questions nobody is asking. I tend to do that occasionally. If I still do it with my wife I’ve been married to for thirteen years, then I’m sure you’ve don it. I’ll be passionately explaining something to her that she doesn’t really care about until I realize, I should change the subject. Dave Ramsey likes to call these occasions “teachable moments” that he and his daughter talk about in their latest book Smart Money Smart Kids. (I highly recommend that book by the way!) Time and time again taking advantage of these teachable moments has proven to be the most effective way to teach our kids lessons for life.

Adrenaline pumping teachable moments

So we have stumbled across several of these teachable moments so far.
First teachable moment. How a baby comes out. When my wife walked through the door, our seven-year-old daughter started expounding on how a baby comes out when it’s born. And most importantly where it comes out from. My wife’s shock subsided after a little explanation. Two or three years later was the next time we had a great teachable moment. We were finishing having dinner when one of my sons used the term “nuts” referring to an important part of a man’s anatomy. I decided to educate them all a little, and taught them a scary word called testicles. I thought “hey, why not know what they’re really called.” Apparently, the way teachable moments work is that one teachable moment leads to another. At that point it seemed to make complete sense to explain the purpose of these mysterious body components God gave us boys. That led to some conversations that revealed the fact that my second and third grade kids were starting to get their share of hearing about sex in school from other kids. “One girl at school said that for babies to come, a mom and a dad have to lay on top of each other naked! But I told her that’s not true” my daughter told me. It was then that I felt the adrenaline start pumping. I realized that regretted time had come. I would have to let them know what sex is and somehow explain it in an appropriate way. The first thing that surprised me was how easy it was once I finally spat it out, and we got going explaining and answering questions.
I purposely avoided the negative aspects and dangers of sex. Fear not. This was intentional, as I wanted to give them a chance to have an optimistic view on sex before we start talking about the challenges and dangers. I focused on the fact that sex was Gods idea, and how awesome it is. And how it’s only for when you get married to the person you love the most. How the person you marry is the only one in the world who gets to see you naked, and all stuff like that. It was surprising how easy the kids took it all in. There was a little shock, but a fraction of what I expected. My older son was a bit shy about it, but in general I expected a far more dramatic experience than turned out. It took a chunk of courage to finally just flat out explain how everything works. I think Holy Spirit gave me wisdom in the moment to explain it all in a holy, wholesome and fun way. Here was the most scary part. As we were finishing the conversation, my daughter said “wow, I can’t wait till I get to have sex!” Yes, that was a bit of a shocker. I considered it a victory however. It was just purely sincere, and honest. I’d much rather have a relationship of trust with my kids where they can talk about their feelings with me and mom than find out about some struggle when it’s too late.
There’s only so much one can cover in one blog post, so as I have some time to organize some thoughts and discoveries, this theme is surely to be continued…

What has your experience been like in teaching your kids about this topic?
I’d love to hear any thoughts y’all have. Even if you don’t have kids. :)